Saturday, December 16, 2006

With all my heart, I love. . .

By Kirsten Nour Namskau

What do we actually mean, when we say we love someone?
In the past they were thought that if you loved your child, you should punish him/her. With the result that parents punished their children either they had done something wrong or not. They got punished for what they had done and what they were “going to do” in the future.

Parents abuse their children sexually and say it is because they love them.
Husbands ill-treat and are abusive towards their wives with the words that it is because they love them. They say that their jealousy is a result of their love.

The love shows up in a way so I feel for saying: “ Please don’t love me, it hurts too much.”
I have thought my children that love is. . . .

To care for a person in a way so you want to protect the person from any harm.
To show tolerance ~ acceptance ~ patient ~ and support . . .

This will develop in the other person . . .

Gratefulness . . . helpfulness . . . support . . . . and . . .
Willingness to listen, obey, try . . . and . . .
To show you tolerance ~ acceptance ~ patient ~ and support

Which again will develop in you . . . . gratefulness, helpfulness, support and will . . . . .

Sexuality itself is not love . . . . It is the result of love

You love you spouse in a different way than you love your children

You love children in a different way than you love animals.

You love animals in a different way than you love the nature

You love the nature in a different way than you love God

If you don’t know the different ways of love . . . .Then love can be very dangerous.
If a man doesn’t know the differently love he should show between his wife and his child, then his love can kill the child.

If you believe that sex is the only way you can show your love, then I feel sorry for you.

But tell me . . . what is you definition of love?


BBC said...

Do you mean human love or spiritual love? Human love is something that is still in evolution. Only I think it is going backwards.

But let me keep it simple. Love is stepping in front of a speeding bullet to protect someone else.

Kirsten N. Namskau said...

BBC: And how do you explain Spiritual love??

BBC said...

"BBC: And how do you explain Spiritual love??"

I once wrote a poem, or whatever you want to call it. Call it spiritual love.

I loved you before I met you
I can always love you more
But I will never love you less
Than a one

And then people screw it up and get me to not liking them so much. Some people that you love you just have to stay away from. Especially the monkeys. Many people are just future disappointment’s.

The old lady next door to me is the best woman at love that I have ever known. Notice that I end with hug a lot? Everyone should do that, but few do. They don’t assume that they love someone unless they know them, then they decide if they love them at some level. Humans, bah.

I could share a lot more about love with you but I’m not going to post it all here and I don’t have an email address for you. And of course you shouldn’t post it in your blog unless you have a Yahoo or Hotmail or similar web email account. The one in my profile is a Yahoo account. Hugs.

Kirsten N. Namskau said...

Here in Egypt, you always hug people you know, when you meet them. I understand what you mean, dear.

BBC said...

Some people here are good at hugging, and some aren't. I've hugged people I've just met at times, they are just that kind of people, open and loving.

Some I hug some I know well a little just to bother them because they don't much like it. LOL

Hammer said...

Love is being able to care for someone without controlling or smothering.

Being able to help and lend advice
without being bossy or condescending.

Acceptance without co-dependency.

Being able to make sacrifice without losing ones self.

and last but not least to be able to trust without becoming naieve.

Lexcen said...

Sex,is what brings people together. Love is what keeps them together long after the sex has lost it's magic.

Olivia said...

Lexcen - that is like a great line from Captain Corelli's Mandolin.

I can't say anything about love because there is too much and too little to say about it. I know all about parental love and friendship love - say, agape and filo, but not much at all about the other, say erotas.

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Anonymous said...

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